Feminine Reclamation

MaryLisa Emery
Apr 19
3 min read

✨ What It Really Means to Choose Yourself: The Science, Soul & Power of Feminine Reclamation

In a world that rewards burnout, overgiving, and constant self-editing, choosing yourself can feel radical.

For many women, that phrase—"choose yourself"—is something they nod at, repost, or whisper in a journal entry. But when it comes time to actually live it, they hit a wall.

Why?

Because choosing yourself isn’t just about bubble baths or saying no to the wrong guy. It’s about reclaiming the full spectrum of your feminine power—the part of you that was taught to dim, shrink, or disappear.

Let’s talk about what’s really happening in your body, your energy, and your life when you finally say: “I choose me.”

🧠 The Science: Your Nervous System Was Wired to Abandon You

Mama Gena has said before: Women are trained to compromise before they even learn about their own wants.

Growing up I can't point to a single moment in time where I was told that I needed to be beautiful in order to be valueable, or that catering to men's needs was paramount to my own, but somehow I was infested with these energies and ideas nonetheless.

Culture, society, media, and social circles perpetuate the idea that women are symbols rather than power sources.

From childhood, most women are conditioned to prioritize others:

"Be nice."
"Don’t make a scene."
"Make sure everyone else is okay.”

This trains the nervous system to associate love with self-abandonment.

Over time, this shows up as:

Chronic stress and anxiety
Difficulty setting boundaries
Emotional numbing or hyper-reactivity
Feeling like your body is “shut down” or untrustworthy

When women begin healing this, it’s not just emotional—it’s physiological. Choosing yourself means re-patterning your nervous system to believe: “When I choose myself, everyone is blessed”

Through breathwork, movement, and somatic rituals, you can retrain your body to feel pleasure, safety, and clarity from the inside out.

For me, it's a daily remembrance.

Sometimes I am in the FLOW! Dancing, laughing, and creating. Other times I fight old beliefs about needing to sacrifice my wellbeing inn order to earn my place as worthy-enough

🌹 The Feminine Lens: Receptivity Is Not Weakness

True feminine energy isn’t about softness alone. It’s about responsiveness—the ability to be fully present in your body, attuned to your intuition, and magnetic to the life you desire.

Choosing yourself means:

No longer chasing people, outcomes, or approval
Letting your field do the calling
Trusting your internal “yes” and “no”
Nourishing your energy before you pour it out

This isn’t passive. It’s energetic leadership—a quieter, deeper power that doesn’t shout to be heard.

Just yesterday I was overwhelmed with the stress of needing to succeed, earn more, be more, do more. yikes.

Thankfully I was able to remember this liberating truth

When the woman relaxes, she can finally receive

🔮 The Psychic Truth: You Already Know

Most women I work with aren’t lost.They’re disconnected from their deep inner knowing.

They’ve outsourced their power to the next strategy, relationship, healer, or productivity hack. But the truth is: your body knows.Your womb knows.Your field knows.

Choosing yourself is the moment you stop waiting for permission and begin listening to the subtle pull within.

It might not always make sense. It might go against what others expect. But it’s the beginning of becoming a woman who can lead herself—and live in a reality that reflects that.

If someone looked into my life while I was deep breathing, laughing, or dancing during a "work day" they might ask how that was making anything happen??

But its from this deeper understanding of the power of feminine flow that I can welcome all the energy necessary to use pleasure and clarity as my tools of success.

✨ A Reflection for You

Ask yourself:

Where in my life am I still waiting to be chosen?
What parts of me have I silenced in order to be loved or accepted?
What would change if I began treating my body, desires, and energy as sacred?

You don’t need to figure it all out today. But you do need to listen.

And if something in you is stirring… if your body is whispering "this is what I’ve been needing” — I want to invite you to take the next brave, beautiful step.