The Nervous System Case for Sisterhood

I am obsessed with bees right now.

I had this magical experience where I was channeling codes for the FMC class coming May 17th, and fell deeply into the science and mysticism of bees.

A major component for honey bees is their community. They act as a unit toward group prosperity, nourishment, and resilience.

In the original Holy Harlot program (now a fraction of Feminine Mystery School) was a deep transmission on sisterhood.

About how being seen is the first protocol for receiving.

We often get trapped in a healing cycle of "going it alone".

And our bodies and chemistry suffer.

I have done this many time through my youth. A lot of it was the ego of the healer/know-it-all. I thought "if I deliver wellness to others, I should be able to help myself!"

(Someone give that girl a hug)

Healing alone is great for many things: mainly deconditioning ourselves of what popularized wellness dictates and learning general new ways of being.

At a certain point, we need to heal with others. In conjunction, in communion. Not only because they can see things that we cannot, but because a lot of our injuries center around

• abandonment

• rejection

• seperation

And the only way to heal those aspects? Is in relationship.

I think everyone kind of starts their spiritual and healing journey alone, but there comes a time when we drop isolation and come back to the hive for something deeper, more nourishing.

The Science

Let's geek out on oxytocin for a second.

The feminine nervous system requires oxytocin to heal.

Shelly Taylor, a researcher at UCLA, discovered that the primary response in female stress was "tend and befriend". Our bodies seek connection and container to regenerate. Oxytocin drives us to come together to heal.

Oxytocin is also considered a "glow" hormone. Not only does it melt our stressor, repair our bonds, allow us to grow in prosperity together, it soften the fascia, eases digestion, and improves the vitality of skin.

It makes us GLOW

Our biology needs others to feel safe. But so many of us feel less safe when vulnerability is required. Why?

I see two major factors that prevent us from doing that today

• As technology becomes more and more prevalent, our social interaction becomes less and less. We are inundated with rage bate on social media, causing more and more divisiveness programming to lodge in our energy system.

• In Individualistic societies (more western based ideologies revolving around accumulation and competition) we have an internalized aversion to being seen as weak and in need. This culture is great at making money! But lead the way in further deteriorating health trends.

Isolation doesn't heal us on the chemical emotional level that we are in dire need of. We need each other to dissolve the pains we increasingly face in a fast paced society, hell bent on keeping us apart.

Ancient Priestesses

ancient cultures knew this, in a divine, innate way.

They danced together, grieved together, bled in tents together, prophesied together.

All the science can give you the logical reasons for why these ancient practices helped people, but really feel it in your body.

How would your body and life change if you had a community of people who wanted to share your tears, hold you through your changes, and shake their ass with you while you made dinner?

Yeah, it'd be pretty freaking magical for every aspect of wellness.

Back to my obsession with bees:

Persephone, Bridget, Venus and many others were considers "Mellisae" which means honeybee. They were called honey-bee priestesses.

Honey has long been considered the nectar of the gods. It comes from the concentration of sexual energy given by flowers, and shares vibrational codes with light, and the sun.

Today we know honey to be antibacterial and nourishing; bee pollen to heal the immune system and provide the densest amount of nutrient we can get.

But let's go deeper. These priestesses were linked to honeybees because of the codes that came along with such a vibration:

• abundance

• beauty

• sexuality

• healing

• community

They knew the potency in bearing witness, holding space, and coming together.

I have had two incredibly potent healing experiences that dont follow exactly what I was looking for. Both practitioners maintained deep eye contact, spaciousness, and a depth of witnessing.

They didn't heal me, they allowed me to be seen, and the healing happened like lightning and thunder.

Sacral Chakra Injuries

I have seen and patterned out several energetic and emotional injuries that contribute to us blocking our receiving, blocking our sisterhood, blocking our enjoyment.

1. Always Waiting: If life feels like it moves slow, you feel stuck often, or your waiting for a silver platter from the Universe to show you the way, this is actually an energetic block related to fear. Waiting for everything to be right or clear, you'll be waiting forever. It's like trying to drive with the emergency brake on. There is a low hum of freeze in the nervous system that exhausts the adrenals, from always being alert, and finding life lacking.

2. Addicted to Pain: Let me try to say this in a delicate way, because the mind will want to reject this. If you had an early experience early on of pain, as a baby, as a toddler, you have deep programming that continues to attract pain to you. I had this regarding male relationships. It sucked. Being always sick, always injuring yourself, "chasing" pain in the way of tattoos, numbing free lip injections, rough sex, or frequent car accidents are just some ways that this sneaky subconscious pattern reveals itself. And if you're addicted to pain, you will call in more and more.

3. Martyrdom: I meet so many women who have deep desires, but will always put others first. How magnanimus! Until you have auto-immune disorder, chronic anxiety, and realize you're laregly incapable having fun doing the things that used to bring you pleasure. Putting others first only works, if you have a full cup. Otherwise you are TRAINING people to take advantage of you, while you wait on the sidelines hoping one day someone will give you a reward for all your kindness and self-sacrifice. Am I being mean? I hope not. I just want to be the mirror so we can move into more joy.

4. Fear of Intimacy: Intimacy is about more than sex. It is about connection, vulnerability, being seen AND received. A big problem our culture is currently outgrowing (thank god) is the "atlas-pattern"; basically where we carry all of our burdens alone. And honestly, a lot of women get stuck in this idea of "well if I share my problem with people, won't I manifest more negative things?" No. No no no. When you throw your burden in a circle of women, or trusted confidants, it gets alchemized (thanks oxytocin!). You want to be more magnetic? You have to be seen, be willing to be intimate.

Coming back to the Hive

So, what now?

Make a decision. A decision to prioritize bonding and community.

Work with a practitioner, seduce your husband, call your friend up, join a program, make friends at the dog park like your health depended on it, be a flirt at happy hour.

Because honestly your glow up will be worth it.

The bee doesn't debate whether she deserves the hive.

She returns to it because her body knows the truth of what her mind resists.

That her biology was made for this. That the honey only happens together.

You have done so much alone. You have been so brave in your solitude. And there is a version of your healing that has been waiting, not for another protocol or another breakthrough, but for a room of women who will hold your nervous system while you finally let go.

That is not weakness. That is the most ancient medicine there is.

The priestesses knew. The bees know. And somewhere underneath everything you learned about being strong on your own, you know it too.

Come back to the hive.

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